"For the entire Law is fulfilled in in this one word: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."—Gal 5:14

Filtering by Category: Attitude

Is precision obedience necessary for God to save you?

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Sometimes we can start trying to make precepts (rules) where God gave us instead broader principles. Recently I saw a discussion on how Saul disobeyed God, and I believe it was accurately discerned that as His children, walking in His instruction to the utmost of our ability is wise. Personally, I also find it refreshing.

It did get me thinking about the heart, and matters of it. In 2 Chronicles 29-31, some interesting things happen. The Chronicler tells us outright that the Israelites did not "obey," and by "obey," perhaps I mean they did not obey with precision. They decided to do their own thing. In fact, in 30:18, we see that a majority of the people "ate the Passover otherwise than as prescribed."

But we also see that they "humbled themselves" (11) and that "the priests and the Levites were ashamed." (15) Hezekiah seemed to recognize this, being of the same good heart, and prayed, "“May the good LORD pardon everyone who sets his heart to seek God, the LORD, the God of his fathers, even though not according to the sanctuary’s rules of cleanness.” (18-19)

In response to this error, "the LORD heard Hezekiah and healed the people." (20)

This ends up being a time of rejoicing, or coming back to God, though a bit wrong in some cases (not quite the best month, but exceptions were allowed; not quite as pure as one was supposed to be, yet God showed grace), with encouraging words and spiritual growth.

It reminds me that Nabad and Abihu were struck down, but Eleazar and Ithamar were spared immediately afterward, though they did contrary to what was instructed. It reminds me that mercy may triumph over judgment, and that the Mercy Seat was above the Ark of the Covenant. It gives me hope that, when I try to obey correctly, and mess up, that perhaps God will not consider my error in attempting to walk with Him as enough to label me as "disobedient," but rather, perhaps, imperfect in my attempt.

I expect that I will have a better understanding once I have my own children. In the meantime, I hope that I am found to be a good laborer, doing so out of love of all that I have been blessed with, having the obedience of faith.

What is your motivation for salvation?

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What was your motivation for seeking salvation? Was it to be changed or just to escape the consequence of sin? Do you fully believe that God was telling the truth when He said, "Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come?" (2 Corinthians 5:17)

For a long time, my motivation was just to escape the consequence of sin. I resisted the change. Not anymore. Now I want success, and not for myself, but to bring glory to my God, who not only created me, but saved me when I went astray, and at an incalculable cost. I am a new creation, and I will keep the old man in the grave. 

Grace does not make sin less dangerous.

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Grace does not make sin less dangerous. 

In Genesis 4:7 God warned Cain, "And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it."  In Hebrews 3:13, He cautioned, "But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called "Today," so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin." 

Sin has the power of deception. Examine yourself against the mirror of the Word. (James 1) Look upon your inner man. Be honest. If you ignore a monster in the mirror, sin's power of deception will be your master, and it may become a nightmare from which you never wake up—the worst reality of all. 

A Better Way to View Sin

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Phil Sutton of Christ's Church in Bozeman, MT, wrote this. It'll encourage you! Give it a read!

"Is it a sin if I . . . ? " For the Christian, I suggest that this not the best question to ask when it comes to life decisions, at least that has proven to be the case for me. If I already really think that it could possibly be sinful, then I know that I myself am at least a little suspicious that the activity might be somewhat shady, maybe a little too close to the line, if not actually over it. Then I try to find comfort from those who would tell me that I should go for it. I find little joy in my faith when I think like this. My focus is on myself, my "rights", my personal safety (after all, I don't want to go to hell, but I really want to do what I want to do), and even my sin. I find myself defending my life (to myself, to others, and to God) more that actually living a meaningful and happy abundant life. My abundant life is better realized when I ask different questions. Here are a few that I ask myself a lot nowadays as I try to make decisions.

1. How am I going to glorify God in this?
2. How am I going to use this to benefit the kingdom of God?
3. How am I going to use this to encourage and help others?
4. How is this decision going to build and strengthen my faith? My family's faith? My Christians siblings' faith?
5. What opportunities is this decision or activity going to provide for fulfilling God's will.

A question to summarize all of these: IS IT PROFITABLE FOR THE KINGDOM OF GOD, AND DOES IT EDIFY?

1 Corinthians 10:23 - "All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify."
So, even if it is "lawful", is it good and useful?

For myself, I really like the positive, forward-focused questions better. They help me focus on God rather than on myself or sin. They help me make decisions with joy and with a clear conscience, rather than with fear and a somewhat guilty conscience.

Sin is not even an option in the mind of a Christian. If I am suspicious of sin, I already know the answers to the above questions.

Press on in faith, not fear!

If you can't forgive or forget, pick one.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Are you good at record keeping? Have you ever had a falling out with someone? Maybe it was ages ago, but you still don't talk? Maybe it was SUPER-SERIOUS FACEBOOK OFFICIAL and you even blocked them for whatever reason and thought, "Aha, me and Mark Zuckerberg will teach 'em!?" 

God said love "keeps no record of wrongs." When will you tear up that record and start fresh? After all, the second greatest command is to, "love your neighbor as yourself.’" (1 Cor 13 & Mark 12)  

Starting over after failure—are you overwhelmed?

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Ever been in a situation where your progress is just pathetic? Where you're horribly outmatched? Where it's all so vastly overwhelming and pointless? Maybe a relationship that tanked and building a new life just seems impossible?

When the remnant Jews saw the foundation of Zerubbabel's temple, they wept. It was pathetic.  It was nothing like the glory of the first temple. How could the possibly build again? Yet God said, "Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit...Who dares despise the day of small things?" 

When you're recovering and the work seems insurmountable to even get back to where you used to be, remember not to despise the small things. Keep placing one stone at a time, and realize that it's not by your might, nor your power, but God's Spirit, which has the power to create a universe and more. 

How do you react to different sins?

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

How do you react to different sins? I was talking to a friend about struggles we have. Sometimes, for example, we night not think a thing about a Christian sleeping around, or routinely getting wasted with friends, but someone gay, on the other hand, is not even worth bothering with! Blech!

God warns us against this habit, saying, "Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals,  nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.  Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. " (1 Cor 6:9-11)

Do you let some sins slide because they're more acceptable to you? Or do you say, "Such were some of us?" Put the sin in the past, and help anyone get on target, no matter how they currently miss the mark! :)

When you just can't stand someone.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

"Man, that stinking witch...well, God requires that I love her, but she should have her sins exposed and man I'd like to punch her face!  If only everyone else knew what I know about her!"—an internal thought from a Christian.

"Oh yeah, well you don't really serve Christ; it's all for show with you [censored], go to HELL!"—a Christian phone call gone nasty.

"Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness.”—Romans 13:14; God.

The above are a symptom of sickness in the lives of Christians; the symptom of a deadly disease which carries with it a host of other maladies. It is called "bitterness," expressed in Greek as being "pikros," meaning that the entire thing is cutting, sharp.  Have you ever seen that sort of response from a Christian in a relationship? Calculated, incisive, meant to cause damage...here is something better to consider:

"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice."—Eph 4:31 

Settling differences.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Ever had a brother or sister in Christ who you just KNOW ain't livin' up to expectations? Time to give 'em an earful! Especially if it's affronted you!

Galatians 6:1 says, "Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted."

Our goal must not be punishment, but restoration, and not with the fierce wrath of a volcano, but rather in gentleness. I lack this, but I'm getting better daily. One last thing: that brother or sister out indulging in the world...is caught in something very, very addictive. Be very careful lest you get caught up in the same sin. 

Shine when it is darkest.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

The world isn't interested in someone selling them what they already have. People want to see what sets Christians apart. Habakkuk noted that crops failed, cattle starved, yet he said, "I will be joyful in God my Savior. The Sovereign Lord is my strength, he makes my feet like the feet of a deer, he enables me to tread on the heights." (Chap 3)

When we suffer our greatest tribulations, we have the greatest opportunity to show the world what we're made of. We have the opportunity to show the the Holy Spirit in us, to show that we overcome where others would crumble. At our lowest, we are enabled to tread on the heights. 

Will you?

The applause of a single person.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

You've seen the scene: a man makes a daring speech, and there is silence. Suddenly, one person in the crowd stands up, and begins to clap. Then another. Then another. It is true that the applause of a single person is of great consequence.

How daring are you for the Christ? Do you keep quiet about it? In Philippians 1, Paul was thrown in prison for not keeping quiet, but he noted,  "Most of the brethren, trusting in the Lord because of my imprisonment, have far more courage to speak the word of God without fear....yes, and I will rejoice." 

One person's boldness can be infectious. How bold will you be?

Much needed rest.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Ever been exhausted? Tired with the ongoings of life? Worn down? God wants us to be workers for Him, but He also knows that workers need breaks to recharge. That's why, "He said to them, "Come away by yourselves to a secluded place and rest a while." (Mark 6:31)

I find myself somewhat aligned with Jesus in that respect. "One of those days, Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God." (Luke 6:12)  When I need to recharge, I go to explore the beauty of God's creation. It's a great time to pray and listen to podcasts from my spiritual family. 

Do you take the time to rest? 

Don't be demoralizing.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Have you ever had a brother or sister in Christ make you feel worthless?  In 2 Samuel, David became depressed, and his attitude hurt others. General Joab saw the damage he was doing and told David,

"You have today covered with shame the faces of all your servants.... For you have made it clear today that commanders and servants are nothing to you!  Now therefore arise, go out and speak kindly to your servants, for I swear by the Lord, if you do not go, not a man will stay with you this night, and this will be worse for you than all the evil that has come upon you from your youth until now.”

David hurt others just by being demoralized. Being actively negative is far, far worse to our brothers and sisters. Look for every reason to encourage, even when you're at your most discouraged. 

When it all seems hopeless.

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

When the Jews finally returned from exile in the time of Haggai, they found the temple of Solomon destroyed.  Something that had been built over time was in ruin—they were alone with destruction. Have you ever felt like that?  Yet a great man of God addressed them remnant and said, ‘Who is left among you who saw this house in its former glory? How do you see it now? Is it not as nothing in your eyes?"

Have you ever seen the destruction of some part of your life? A relationship? Finances? Something that you've worked hard for? Something that took years? God spoke through Haggai and reminded the people of God,,

"Yet now be strong. Work, for I am with you, declares the Lord of hosts,  according to the covenant that I made with you when you came out of Egypt. My Spirit remains among you." 

Setbacks and destruction are tools that Satan uses to topple us. Don't let destruction in your life reign. Don't fear. Get to work rebuilding. God remains among us. Yet now be strong. (Taken from Haggai 2.)

How are you in relationships?

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

How are you in relationships?  Romans 12:12 says,  "Be joyful in hope, patient in affection; faithful in prayer." 

The best romantic Christian relationships can be characterized by the above. Instead of being fed up with slight imperfections, we can have joy in hope for growth.  Instead of being pushy, we can be patient with our affection as both partners grow.  And strikingly important, we can learn to always be faithfully praying with our partners. 

That's a beautiful thing, and something I'm learning to do. 

Addicted to the World?

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

My study on spiritual addiction to the world turned into a study on Light, and what it can be to wander in the darkness. As such, here's an updated version. It's mostly for me, and I'll keep studying it, but it needs a place for me to easily access it online.


BQ: What would you think of a former addict who said, "You know what...I think that I can have just one sip/hit/look and call it good?" Probably not very smart, huh?

When we are baptized, we can say that we are crucified with Christ, and our sins and desires with it, yet we often have a period of time to unlearn our bad habits.  As Christians, it can be tempting to return to worldly behavior, yet when we do, we often find ourselves lamenting, saying, "Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death?" (Romans 7:24)  

Don't be the addict who decides to go back for another sip. Be free from the body of death. 




 

BQ: HAPPY NEW YEAR! :)

 

How are you going to improve your spiritual health this year? On a scale of 1 to 10, where are you? How can you improve? I have a suggestion that helped me a lot. 

 

Often, when we're spiritually weak, we tend to stick with those who are spiritually weak as well, or who are not spiritual at all. There we do not risk being looked down on, but instead are "loved" for our bad behavior.  

 

Why is this so?  Because, "For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed."  When we struggle with the old addict, we struggle wanting to keep our old deeds, and not have them exposed, so we keep bad friends, and not only cannot help them, but cannot help ourselves! We're stuck in the mud!

 

I encourage anyone who is not at the height of spiritual health to make a change of friends. Start now. Replace those who keep you spiritually in the grave with those who will raise you up, and remember that, "he who practices the truth comes to the Light, so that his deeds may be manifested as having been wrought in God.” (John 3:20-21)



 

BQ: Happy New Years! Again!

 

When we're addicted to the desires of the flesh, we can struggle with leaving our worldly friends.  It can be very tempting to "stay out of the spiritual high-beams."

 

Have you ever been on an airline flight and had the safety announcement say to put on your oxygen mask before anyone else's? If we want to help others, we first need to save and strengthen ourselves—or we risk losing ourselves, and our friends who are trapped in the world.

 

Don't be afraid of some spiritual high-beams. Light burns away the fog of sin, and repels the darkness. Embrace your family in Christ first, and leave the old behind. Walk into the light because, "Jesus spoke to them, saying, "I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life."  (Jn 8:12)



 

 

BQ: I once had a friend who admitted to having some great spiritual struggles with being unable to break away from the world.  This friend expressed a great desire to "stay out of the spiritual high-beams." Think about how striking those words are. High-beams are used...in the darkness.

 

 What was being expressed was actually a desire to avoid walking in Light. We MUST remember that, "Jesus spoke to them, saying, "I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life."  (Jn 8:12)

 

Don't avoid spiritual light, but rather leave addiction, darkness, and death behind by taking all the Light we can get! 



 

 

BQ: When we seek to stay out of the spiritual headlights, we don't want our worldly behaviors exposed, and so we start sliding away from our Christian family and turning to worldly friends for companionship.  God addresses this human habit and says, 

 

"But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light. For this reason it says,

 

“Awake, sleeper,

And arise from the dead,

And Christ will shine on you.” (Eph 5:13-14)

 

It can be embarrassing to have our behavior brought to light...but we need to seek that help.  Yes, it makes it all visible, but it causes us to wake up, come to our senses, and rise from fleshly death to a wonderful life with Christ. Go to your spiritual family and grow; let go of the world.

 





 

BQ: If we give in to spiritual addiction to the world, we end up being partakers with the world and its darkness rather than ambassadors of light to it. We must be lights, not darkness:

 

“No one after lighting a lamp puts it in a cellar or under a basket, but on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light."

 

Notice the warning here to keep our light shining bright. There is no provision to sometimes hide it. As Christians, we can't let ourselves sometimes go out and get drunk at the bar with our friends! We can't pick some person we "love" and sleep around with him/her. When we do that, we embrace spiritual death and darkness for ourselves and our "friends."

 

 

 

 

 

 

BQ: I once knew a man who was addicted to the world, always going to the bars with friends and always drinking.  This friend engaged in a lot of bad behavior but told me, "My friends aren't Christians, but when we go out I convey Christ to them in a big-picture manner."

 

I was heartbroken for this person, as the symptoms of Luke 11:34-35 were present,

 

"Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is full of light, but when it is bad, your body is full of darkness.  Therefore be careful lest the light in you be darkness!"  

 

As Christians, we cannot partake in the activities of the world. It is incompatible with life in the Light. When we do, we delude ourselves into thinking that we are full of light, but the light in us becomes darkness. The last time I ever spoke to my old friend, he was no longer assembling. Though always in my prayers, it is a tale of the greatest sadness for me. Be careful! 

 






BQ: Yesterday we saw an example of a person who was convinced that he was "spreading the light" while out engaging in dark deeds of the flesh to fuel his addiction for the world. God warns us of this delusion, saying,

"If we say we have fellowship with Him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth," and that, "they are blind guides of the blind, and if a blind man guides a blind man, both will fall into a pit."  (1 John 1:6; Mt 15:14)

This man was convinced that he was spreading the light of Christ, but was engaged in the darkness. While in the darkness, we are blind and cannot see, and we stray from Christ's path, and those we take with us, too. There is nothing sadder.





 

BQ: When we become spiritually addicted to the world, wanting to avoid the light, which can burn painfully, can become a deadly byproduct which can speed up spiritual decay.  This sort of pain is something that we have to go through, and Daniel 12:20 has a prophecy of Christians noting just that, saying,

 

"Many will be purged, purified and refined, but the wicked will act wickedly; and none of the wicked will understand, but those who have insight will understand."

 

Refining, as referenced of silver and metal, is done in a bright, hot fire. That process isn't fun,but it is purifying—yet if we embrace the world, we don't understand that. Pursue a new world and refinement, not an old one of sin and death. 
 



 



BQ: Christians sometimes return to the world, and the addictions of the flesh, but not by simply jumping whole-hog back into sin. Usually it starts with a few small, fun desires of the flesh, and an hunger for the world instead of a "hunger and thirst for righteousness." (Mt 5:6)

It is this sort of behavior that leads God to warn us, "not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned." (Rom 7:24)  

If you think that you can have just a tiny sip of an old appetite for the flesh, you're thinking to highly of yourself, because Satan plans everything to draw you back in.


 

 


BQ: God warns us not to think too highly of ourselves, and to use sober judgment. Often a Christian's sliding back into the world begins with hanging out with bad friends, and thinking very highly of our abilities to withstand the onslaught of worldly pleasure. But God warns us, "Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals." (1 Cor 15:33)

I've seen many Christians hang out with partiers, which slowly leads them to party, and then they begin assembling more with people of the world and partaking of worldly things than fulfilling the great commission. 

We must be extra careful that we do not become those who "know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them." (Rom 1:32) 







BQ: Romans 1:32 warns us not to become those who encourage and engage in fleshly destruction. I watched this happen to one Christian  man who liked the bars, as I've mentioned.  As a refresher, he'd been immersed and growing, but he went back to his non-Christian girlfriend and partying.

This man had liked to drink, and so when he was with her, he'd drink a little to keep things "socially lubed." This slowly led to him going to the bars every now and then with their old friends, and from their, to missing assembly every now and then.

Eventually, he no longer assembled at all. Remember how bad company corrupts good morals? Remember how God says to use sober judgement and not to think too highly of ourselves? My friend didn't heed those warnings, and became a man who both engaged in worldly behavior and encouraged it, and so became one with the world.  We have to be very careful to not let those old desires come back.






BQ:  We simply CANNOT compromise with sin. We cannot decide to go "partying just once." We can't compromise with what is essence addiction. Like an addict who goes back, we can be those who

"after they have escaped the defilements of the world by the knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and are overcome, the last state has become worse for them than the first." (2 Pet 2:20)

Don't mess with the old addictions. Don't compromise. Kick that slave to sing and death out. Keep him dead, period. 






BQ: The zombie apocalypse is always something to see when it's in a movie. Yet when we're addicted to sin and start hanging out with the world, we rarely think of zombies, but instead think of the happiness and "fun" that occurs when we engage in the desires of our flesh. 

What we should see, instead of people happily getting totally wasted, is the true, invisible, spiritual state of these lost individuals. Zechariah says of the lost, "their flesh will rot while they stand on their feet, and their eyes will rot in their sockets, and their tongue will rot in their mouth." (Zech 14;12)

It'd be a lot harder for us to go back to that rotten life of sin and death if we saw spiritual reality as it is—not pretty at all. 







BQ: Spiritual addictions are more easily concealed, which makes them doubly deadly, and there can be a time where we go too far down the rabbit hole to recover. Hebrews 6:4-6 warns us about this, saying, 

"For in the case of those who have once been enlightened and have tasted of the heavenly gift and have been made partakers of the Holy Spirit,  and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the age to come,  and then have fallen away, it is impossible to renew them again to repentance, since they again crucify to themselves the Son of God and put Him to open shame."

Don't risk delving too deep. Don't delve back into the grave looking for the old man at all, in fact. Leave him dead and buried.

Do you fully trust God?

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

Do you trust God? No, really, do you FULLY. TRUST. GOD?

Many times I have struggled with the attitude that I can handle life on my own. I've got an independent streak... Well, actually, let's just admit that I can be stubborn as a mule. Yet, in the end, I find myself weary and inadequate to handle all the curveballs that come my way. Then I remember Matt 11:28:
"Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."

Sadly, I realize that far too often I neglect the "Come to me" part. It's so easy to look for answers in a "self help" book or in the advice of a good friend-- and don't get me wrong, those things can be helpful-- but will they truly provide REST to one's soul? Our lives on earth are a vapor, but God is eternal. His wisdom existed before creation. He knows what our hearts need. His Word is the ultimate counsel and His love is the ultimate comfort. He knows us inside and out!

With such an Awesome God at the helm, why would we hesitate to give our trust to Him?

Maybe we are afraid. Afraid that what God *knows* is best for us, won't match up with what we *want* to be best for us... Or that it will take too long... Or fill in the blank ... 
But Proverbs 29:25 says:
"The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe."

Maybe we are letting the things of the world overwhelm us, allowing our energy to go toward worry, rather than prayer and study. 
But Proverbs 16:20 says:
"Whoever gives thought to the word will discover good, and blessed is he who trusts in the LORD."

Maybe we just want to be "the one in control" or simply put, our pride gets in the way. Again Proverbs has the answer:
"A greedy man stirs up strife, but the one who trusts in the LORD will be enriched.
Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
28:25-26

We've all got excuses-- I know I'm guilty of all of them!

But here's the kicker! If we want rest for our souls, we know right where to find it. We have to make time for God's Word and it needs to fill our hearts and our thoughts.

As Christians, we are assured not only do "...all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Rom 8:28,

But also that "God is faithful, by whom you were called into the fellowship of his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord." 1 Cor 1:9

God will take care of us and He is the definition of trustworthy.

Praise God for His patience as we learn to trust Him more with all aspects of the lives He blessed us with!!!

I leave you with this beautiful picture, painted by the words of Jeremiah:

"Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose trust is the LORD.
He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit."
Jeremiah 17:7-8

It's Hard to Forgive!

Added on by Miriam Brown.

It's Hard to Forgive!

Do you find it difficult to forgive others who have hurt you?

This is no simple question. Sure, if someone does something unintentionally, or is apologetic... It's pretty easy to forgive them.

What if they hurt you purposefully, callously, and could not care less if you've been deeply wounded by their words and actions?

Should we wait for an apology that may never come?

Many of us are familiar with the verses like this one:

"For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." Matthew 6:14-15
(see also Mark 11:25, Col 3:13)

We know that for God to forgive us, me must be forgiving of others. Sounds simple, right? So what is it that holds us back, that makes it so gut wrenchingly hard sometimes to just let go of the infractions we tightly grasp in our fists and hold over the head of the offender?

For that we must look at our own hearts. What are we storing up? Anger and bitterness, or joy and compassion?

"The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks." Luke 6:45

If we store up anger and resentment, it will show up in all parts of our life-- creating new victims, and continuing the cycle of hurt. BUT, what if we do this instead:

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones." Proverbs 3:5-8

Oh what joy it will be to find that HEALING! The kind of healing that penetrates beyond the surface and into our very bones!

We may never understand why that person did what they did! They may never offer a meaningful apology, if they offer one at all. But does it matter whether or not the offender deserves our forgiveness? Does it matter if they appreciate it? It's certainly a nice thought and a great hope. And perhaps our attitude of forgiveness can prick their heart and start them on the path that leads to redemption. (That's not to say that we should allow ourselves to be hurt again-- some situations require that we keep a distance for safety sake.)

But when it comes to forgiving those who have hurt us, we must first remember that God tells us it is vital. After all, we have a Savior who ***gave His very life*** so we ourselves could have forgiveness-- and He did this for everyone, when no one deserved it, whether they loved Him or not. God wants us to extend that same love to others.

It may take time, and it won't be easy, but we must work to empty our hearts of dark thoughts and allow them to be refreshed by the healing power of God's ways.

Need a good place to start renewing your thoughts? Here is some wisdom from Phillipians 4:8-- "...whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."

And Col 3:12-13--
"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."


One more thought-- forgiveness is a topic with many sides and faces. For those dealing with difficult people on a daily basis-- I pray for you. It is a hard journey to have to forgive the same hurts over and over, with no relief in sight.

"Then Peter came up and said to him, "Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?"

Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times." Matthew 18:21-22

Wow. That's hard. Almost seems impossible, but remember: "I can do all things through him who strengthens me." Phil 4:13

Keep fighting the good fight and be a light for the sake of Christ-- and when you are weak, when you fail, have mercy on yourself. Pray for strength and try, try again.

Secret Sin: Can You Keep It Hidden?

Added on by Miriam Brown.

Food for thought and the stout of stomach:

I have personal reasons to address this heavy topic today, but it is my hope to prick your hearts and dampen the power of evil that has so strong a hold on too many souls in this world. And so I ask:

What dark secrets are you hiding?

How long do you think you have before they will be discovered?

It really doesn't matter how clever you are, how carefully you cover your tracks or how masterfully you might be able to manipulate those around you. No matter how hard we try, we cannot conceal our sin from God, and He has the power to reveal it to anyone, at any time.

"Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known. Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops." Luke 12:2-3

Are you ready for that?!?

"Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption..." Gal 6:7-8a

Sin reaps corruption! That's a harsh saying and a hard truth, isn't it? Some sin is easy to confess and some sin is so shameful, so utterly vile that we might rather die than to speak it aloud, but even that sin is forgiveable.

What do we do?? For one, we could repent and confess of our sins (which means STOP IT! and FIX IT!) letting Christ wash it away OR continue in our delusion that we are in control and will never be found out.

Choosing the first, we can continue in Galatians to see that:
"...the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." 8a-9

Trade the physical for the Spiritual! Do GOOD, have patience, and be determined never to give up! The reward is beyond any fading lust or pleasure we experience here-- it is eternal life in paradise!

Still don't think you're touchable? Still think what you're doing isn't hurting anyone? What they don't know won't hurt them, isn't that the saying? If you've got the idea you are just fine, consider the warning of Titus:

"To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled. They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work." Titus 1:15-16

If you aren't obeying God, if you refuse to fight your sin, beware, lest you go so far down the path of destruction that you develop a defiled conscience that cannot guide you back the right way. If you are unfit for any good work, what are you fit for?

No pity parties! No excuses! Your sin hurts those you love and it is your choice to change that path. . . . 

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER your Savior waits for you with love and open arms, He will forgive you. He's pretty awesome like that. 

I will never fall away!

Added on by Lucas Necessary.

BQ: Some people want to say, "You can't save the world," or, "Well you can't be perfect, so don't kill yourself trying." I like a lesson that we get from reading about Peter on this subject. Peter told Jesus in Matthew 26:33, “Even though all may fall away because of You, I will never fall away.”

Peter did abandon Jesus, but that wasn't the end of the story. Likewise, we may fall short every now and then, but that doesn't mean that those blips define us. Like the frescoes of the Cistine Chapel are not defined by some of their blemishes, but are seen as extraordinary, we shouldn't define ourselves by our mistakes. And just as importantly, we need to keep the attitude that we will never fall away!