It's important to evaluate our passion when talking about "what God actually said." Sometimes I've found myself arguing just so that I could win and be right. The "why" behind my actions was not to help someone or change a life through God's power, but to assuage my own pride. Now I remind myself,
"It is better to be humble in spirit with the lowly than to divide the spoil with the proud. He does not forget the cry of the humble." (Proverbs 16:19; Psalm 9:12)
It's NOT about about ME being right, it's about God's truth having the ability to transform the lives of others. Being right and looking over the spoils of my prideful war is worse than nothing, because it can hurt others in the process.
"For the entire Law is fulfilled in in this one word: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."—Gal 5:14